How to get her back with these 7 tips
Let’s face it. A break-up is a break-up. It’s not unusual that a break-up is often coupled with anger, bitterness, and hurt feelings. Most often than not, we won’t realize what we had until we’ve lost it. We might even recall the hurtful words we’ve said to our ex that could have led to the break-up in the first place. And I’m sure many of us had heard this before.
But how many of you have taken advice from well-meaning friends and family on how to get our ex back? And finding out the hard way that you’re going the other way, instead of getting your ex back. I’m no expert but through experience and some researching, I’ve summarized 7 helpful hints that could be an eye-opener for some, who in desperation to get your ex back, might have overlooked.
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Are you a pushover? Nobody’s perfect and neither are you or your ex. You’ve probably heard your ex complained about how overbearing you were. But that doesn’t mean she could appreciate a man who doesn’t have the strength to stand up to her. Getting back your ex by threatening to jump off a bridge is not recommended either. In fact, that could kill any chance for you to win your ex back.
If you think you could change her mind with flowers and gifts, think again. One of the reasons she’s your ex is probably that her feelings toward you had changed. No amount of gifts or flowers could change the way she feels about you personally. The only way your ex would consider coming back to you is by getting back that feeling she used to have for you.
Let us expand on the idea mentioned in point №2. You’d probably be thinking, that’s pretty easy. Think harder. You see, people change over time. It’s probably this change in her that caused the fall-out between you two. Try recalling what events or things she mentioned recently that made her really happy and responded positively to. You’ll be surprised, often, it’s the simplest and most insignificant thing to you. But by re-creating that chemistry, she might start looking at you from a different perspective.
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One of the most important things any man should realize is not to use jealousy as a way to get back their ex. If you’ve made a blind date with the first woman you come across on the lonely hearts section of the local newspaper, cancel it now. Why? Because going out with another and taking the trouble to let all your mutual friends know about it, is not going to work for you. Once she sees you out with another woman or heard from a mutual friend, your ex would be thinking you never cared for her in the first place.
It’s not a good idea to start stalking your ex. chasing after her in the street or calling her every five minutes or so, would only set off sirens in her mind. She’ll be running all right — away from you — as far as possible. Better to give her some space to make her own decision, rather than pushing her to a corner. That’ll set you back by a mile in the opposite direction.
One alternative that most men would never think about in counseling. This is true probably because generally, men would prefer to solve their own problems. However, if you are truly serious about getting your ex back, counseling has its benefits. For one, it might open up your mind to a whole new perspective which you had never seen before.
Finally, if you know you are to blame for the break-up, it wouldn’t hurt to sincerely apologize. A deeply felt apology goes a long way to soothe a seething heart, which is your ex’s. It’s not just the two little words but, carry on explaining that you understand how your words or actions had hurt her.
Remember that your love and sincerity towards your ex is what matters.
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